If you could make one resolution this New Year – one you could easily stick to, that would enhance all facets of your life, but require very little effort – it would be a no-brainer to make that resolution, right?
We all know New Year’s resolutions are easy to make but hard to keep. Turning our desires into actions we will commit ourselves to, consistently, beyond the first week or month of the year – well, that’s the hard part. It’s easy to want something, much harder to make it happen.
I have a theory about that.
All actions we take, or don’t take, are filtered through a cost-benefit system of analysis. In other words, we consciously or subconsciously weigh the pros and cons of taking an action against the pros and cons of not taking it.
For example, I may want to lose weight but the “benefit” of being slim does not outweigh the “cost” associated with dieting and rigorous exercise. Or put another weigh – the pain of maintaining status quo seems more worth it than the effort involved in getting thinner.
Those failed resolutions we make every year – the ones that don’t last as long as a celebrity marriage – they aren’t resolutions at all. They are simply desires. Desires that are inevitably eclipsed by other competing motivations. More often than not, the competing motivation that wins is the one that wants to avoid the cost of the EFFORT.
But a resolution, a REAL resolution, is actually a “firm decision to do or not do something”. Whatever intention you set, you will keep to it because you are certain of your choice and committed to the action. The benefit is worth the effort, no matter how little or great. It doesn’t mean you’ll find immediate success, but that you will keep working at it with the tenacity of a terrier.
This New Year, I invite you take a little journey with me. Find your inner terrier. Chase something with me.
It will take very little effort. It costs nothing. You won’t have to give anything up. And you won’t have to commit yourself to any strenuous activity.
In 2014, I challenge you to work on being more mindful, every single day.
(This isn’t a joke, by the way – it is possible to be mindful with ADD/ADHD).
Would you like to take this journey with me? Could you stand to find more calmness, peace and joy in your life? Would you like to slow time down – be more present, experience life in real time, as it is happening?
What about quieting the mental chatter? Paying attention and focusing on what you are doing? How about eating healthier and taking better care of your body? What if you even stopped misplacing things so often? Learned to listen better during conversations? Became more productive at work? Had more fun with your family?
Could you spare a few minutes a day, maybe even 5, to work on this with me over the coming year? I propose that this one resolution could go a long way to improving almost every single facet of our lives.
I can’t think of a single thing in my life that couldn’t be helped by more mindful presence. Can you?
Later this week, I will be publishing a follow up to this post, to explain more about what it means to be mindful; specifically, how mindfulness can help ADHD.
In future posts, I will be setting up experiments we can try out together. In the meantime, you have a think about making this resolution that requires very little effort but could change your life in countless ways.
We’ll talk later.