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Three MORE Things You’re Doing Every Day That Make Your ADHD Worse

There’s no better way to get back into something you haven’t been doing for awhile than to simply jump in the saddle. Today, I would like to thank an esteemed colleague – Alan Brown (aka the ADD Crusher) – for taking the reigns with this guest post. There are many reasons I adore Crusher’s voice, but the biggest is his no-BS, tell-it-like-it-is way of getting straight to the heart of ADD matters. Enjoy!

 

In a recent guest blog on Carol Gignoux’s LiveADHDFree.com, I expounded on a recurring Crusher theme: things we ADDers do every day – wittingly or unwittingly – that make our ADHD worse. I tackled three items:

  • Eating Crap (which stultifies our ADD brains)
  • Crappy Sleep (which amplifies our ADHD)
  • Playing Hide-n-Seek (losing and forgetting stuff)

I have a long list of such items that I regularly write about or teach in the ADD Crusher™ videos, so I thought I’d use this blog to share a few more. Herewith, three MORE things you’re doing every day that make your ADHD worse…

 

SCREENSUCKING

Coined by Dr. Ed Hallowell, it describes the ridiculous amounts of time we spend in front of electronic screens – TVs, laptops, video games, tablets, smartphones. It makes our ADHD worse by stealing precious time, inhibiting healthy sleep and diverting us from doing the stuff we KNOW we should be doing!

Here are three steps to bucking screensucking:

  1. List all media habits in order of time committed (TV, gaming, Facebooking, etc.).
  2. Identify ONE media activity you can do less of – or eliminate.
  3. Assign yourself a new, more productive or enriching activity to take its place.

 

Take charge of your media life and you’ll start taking charge of your ADHD!

 

MULTITASKING 

Why can’t we just do what the rest of the world SEEMs to do so easily – just get stuff DONE?! So much of our stress comes from not finishing what we’ve started, in large part because we are so easily pulled away from important tasks – and into titillating, low-priority BS.

 

We like to think of this as “multitasking”, but research shows that even the best multitaskers, um, totally suck at multitasking.

The trick to staying on task is mentally LABELING important tasks and diversions as follows:

  1. What I’m Doing Now. Get ENGAGED in an important task by determining forcefully that THIS IS WHAT I’M DOING NOW.
  2. BS That Is Not What I’m Doing Now. Keep from getting pulled AWAY from that task by labeling things that are “NOT WHAT I’M DOING NOW” as such. Most of the time, it’s BS that is NOT really important (e.g., checking your emails every 10 minutes is BS).
  3. Important, But Not What I’m Doing Now. IMPORTANT things that are NOT what you’re doing now are harder to dismiss. But you need only dismiss them temporarily — by writing a note so you can come back to it.

Get in the habit of using these labels for thoughts and things, and you’ll start seeing more stuff GET DONE! (Here’s a little ADD Crusher™ video clip on this trick.)

 

DOING IT ALL YOURSELF 

We ADDers spend huge amounts of time trying to do things at which we suck – or just needn’t be doing ourselves. Things that people around us can and will do FOR us – if we are WILLING and ABLE to hand them off.

If you could delegate just two things this week, you’d free up gads of time. Ah, easier said than done. And there are two reasons we suck at delegating – and fortunately a solution for each.

  1. Can’t give a subordinate a clear roadmap to completion of a task? Then you can’t delegate it. So TAKE THE TIME TO PREPARE GOOD INSTRUCTIONS BEFORE even trying to delegate.
  2. Delegating means asking something of another person, but we don’t feel entitled, we’re always aiming to please. The solution is to be up front about your inability to do the task well, and compliment the person on her ability to do it better. Makes it a Win-Win.

There ya go. Three more things that, if reduced even modestly, would make your ADHD more manageable. ‘Til next time…

Make sure to check out the third and final part in this series on Alan Brown – ADD Crusher’s – blog HERE!

 

alan brown add crusherAn executive and entrepreneur, Alan was  diagnosed as an adult, but found it difficult to learn coping strategies from books – so he  developed his own mess-to-success strategies. The resulting 10 “Ways” comprise the ADD  Crusher™ approach — interactive, engaging videos and tools for ADHD adults seeking greater  life fulfillment. If this blog post was of even  modest interest to you…then you’ll go freakin’ crazy for Alan’s ADD Crusher™ Videos & Tools. Money back, guaranteed.

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7 Steps to Becoming an Artist of ADD

When it comes to managing the challenges of ADD, you could look at it one of two ways.

You could try to “overcome” it, to become as normal as possible. Good luck with that one, my friend.

Or you could try to be better at it. Yes, you could be better at ADD. Medication or not, your ADD does not disappear entirely and furthermore, it will always be with you. So why not get better at living with it?

How can you be better at ADD?

In order to get better or proficient at anything, there is usually a process you go through. That process is not formulaic but learning almost any skills requires that you follow some version of the following steps.

1. You start

Well done, you’ve already completed step one. From what I gather, most painters start painting long before they have any formal tuition. You’re already living ADD, so you’ve got some experience already.

2. Learn new tips and tricks

Read about ADD, talk to other ADDers, visit ADD websites (or blogs!). Talk to your therapist, psychiatrist or coach. Learn what other people have tried, tested and found to be true in managing their challenges. At some point, most artists will learn techniques from other artists. Some ideas will resonate and others won’t, but learning (not perfection) is the point at this step.

3. Experiment with what does and doesn’t work

Take what you’ve learned and try it out. You are in experimenter mode here, so its critically important not to judge the tactic (or your ability in relation to it) too harshly. Adopt a wait-and-see attitude. Post-it notes work for some people but they certainly don’t for me. If someone invented an over-sized electronic post-it with blinking lights and alarm bells – well, that might just work for me. Experiment and see what works for you.

In the Art of ADD, this step does not apply only to experimental techniques for managing symptoms. In looking at the bigger picture, you experiment with life itself. If a normal 9-5 office job is clearly not fitting with your hunger for variety and mobility, then it might be time for a grander experiment.

4. Get to know, intimately, the ins and outs of your craft (ADD)

Matisse, Renoir and Monet were all impressionists but employed different methods in creating their art. They saw different things and expressed their inspiration uniquely.

Your ADD is different from another person’s ADD. Pause and watch yourself, almost as if an outsider looking in. Where does ADD show up in your life? Where do you struggle most? Which areas of life do you excel in? What makes you come alive? You may think you can answer this right now, but I can guarantee that unless you carefully observe your life, you don’t fully know your ADD. You may recognize yourself as being impatient, but when you really analyze it, you see that while there are situations that frustrate you, there are others you feel completely calm in.

5. Practice

Try out the techniques you have selected, remembering that proficiency does not come with one, two or even twenty tries. Artists are never happy with every single stroke of the brush, but eventually the painting comes together. Leonardo Da Vinci attempted his masterpieces several times before he got to the point where he could allow them to be finished. Your life is your art, it will take a lot of practice to get things just the way you want them to be, and even then it is unlikely you will ever deem your art perfect. They say that art is never complete, only deemed “good enough”.

6. Learn from masters, mentors, and muses

Da Vinci apprenticed for Andrea del Verrocchio. Michealangelo studied under Domenico Ghirlandaio and Bertoldo di Giovanni. You can learn a lot from the people in your life who inspire you. They may be famous or unknown to the rest of the world. They may have ADD or not. They simply need to be people who you admire, for whatever reason, or people who live life the way you would like to. Watching truly confident people in action may not unlock your own confidence but it will certainly inspire you to find your own path towards it.

7. Find your unique style…

and embrace it as your own, knowing that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and the true Art of ADD lies in creating your own masterpiece. Living life in your own artful way is your legacy to the world. It doesn’t matter if its unconventional – its your life, so live it beautifully. Impressionism was scorned in the day for its radical departure from conventional methods. Today, one of Monet’s Water Lilies is worth over 40 million BRITISH POUNDS!

 

Who is anyone but you to say what your art is worth?